Tuesday, 16 August 2016

A Major Announcement:

Recovered former victims of narcissistic abuse are wanted to feature in a new video documentary, to be produced by Marc Hubs (Sparkster) & Co.

Basic Rules:

You should be free of all control and no longer be in contact with your narcissist(s).

Your experience of being victimized must have lasted for at least five years or more.

You must be emotionally and mentally healthy enough to be able to answer specific questions and talk about your experience(s) openly.

To apply:

If you are interested in taking part in this project, you can either send a direct message to the Facebook page here:

ww.facebook.com/ReflectionsOfNPD/


Or you can message Marc Hubs directly through the Facebook profile here:

https://facebook.com/sparkster.hubs

Note:

By producing this documentary we hope to portray the subjective experience of victims as accurately as possible whilst presenting a taste of the devastating effects of having to endure such experiences.

This will give you the opportunity to have your say and to provide any information which you believe can help people develop a better understanding of the dynamics of being involved with a narcissist.

Friday, 17 June 2016

Jekyll & Hyde, The Demon Inside

Trying to get through to a narcissist can not only prove to be a frustrating and futile effort but the experience is emotionally and mentally draining and can also be risky business.

Push just that little bit too much and you may just end up waking up and unleashing the narcissist's inner demon and you certainly wouldn't want that... or would you?

Many people who have been dragged through the metaphorical fires of Hell and who are still scorched and in flames often come to the conclusion that they need to rise above, take a stand and beat the narcissist at their own game by giving them a taste of their own medicine.

Whilst this isn't completely impossible, it's a bad idea right from the start. Most people who have direct experience with a narcissist don't realize how dangerous a position they could be putting themselves in by attempting to do so. A common description of a narcissist is someone who has a split personality but Narcissistic Personality Disorder is not Multiple Personality Disorder (now known as Dissociative Identity Disorder). The narcissist is two people in one - Jekyll and Hyde.

If you do manage to successfully bypass a narcissist's psychological and emotional defense mechanisms and then hit them where it hurts by confronting them with their narcissistic attributes, Jekyll is inevitably going to turn into Hyde and the inner demon will come bursting out of the shell in an incredible fit of extreme narcissistic rage. The truly evil side of the narcissist will be unveiled.

You will then be blasted with shockingly honest and unfathomable levels of hatred way below the belt. They will openly show you that you are nothing but an object to be exploited in a manner comparable to certain scenes from The Exorcist movie.

Unleashing the inner core of a narcissist can be a horrific experience and if you think you've figured them out, you would be better off keeping quiet about it.

If you are dealing with a narcissist who has psychopathic tendencies (a narcissistic psychopath, or narcopath) then by continually and consistently confronting them and threatening their false self, you could very well be putting your own life in danger. A narcissistic psychopath may go as far as committing murder if it means protecting their false self.


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Sunday, 29 May 2016

Empathy: The Key To Psychic Awareness

After years of research and direct experience with narcissistic abuse, plus communication with former victims, it is now clear that many victims often go on to develop psychic abilities.

Although recovery from narcissistic abuse takes many years, former victims usually go on to develop significantly higher levels of empathy than they previously had, before going through their experiences with a narcissist. After such a horrendous long-term experience, of course, it makes sense that they would feel free, liberated and would appreciate the world more.

For many of them, coming out of the other side of long-term narcissistic abuse often leads them into becoming more spiritual people and they become more aware, not just of the physical world but also of the metaphysical world - almost like an upgrade of their psyche which kicks into action, this upgrade of their psyche not only helping their wellbeing but also helping them to become more aware of potential threats - a defence mechanism based on psychic awareness.

Whilst it's true that some people were victimized by narcissists because they were already empaths, many former victims go on to become full-blown empaths after their experience and develop high levels of intuition, not only to the point that they can feel the emotions of people close to them but also to the point whereby they can sometimes pick up on those people's thoughts telepathically also.

Furthermore, with high levels of empathy comes higher vibration and many former victims also find themselves being able to tune into and perceive the spirit world. They may develop abilities such as telepathy and precognition but perhaps most notably, psychometry - to perceive energy from an inanimate object. That is, they may go on to feel empathy for their car, or their laptop, or their musical instrument.

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Thursday, 5 May 2016

Creative Intelligence Linked To Narcissism

According to a new study carried out by psychologists at De La Salle University in Manila, there is a link between creative intelligence and narcissistic/sociopathic tendencies.

Of course, it has always been purported that geniuses are at least a little bit crazy.

Three studies were carried out. For the first study, over 500 participants were asked to fill in a questionnaire designed to pick up on narcissistic and sociopathic traits. For the second study, 250 college students were monitored for indications of being bold, disinhibited and mean.

For the third study, levels of excitement were monitored by the amount of electrical activity in the participant's skin whilst the participants were carrying out activities such as gambling exercises.

The results were published in peer reviewed journal, Personality and Individual Differences, and show how sociopathic traits may be integral to some creative personalities.

The three studies were led by Adrianne John Galang and showed that people with higher levels of creative genius were more likely to display antisocial traits including higher levels of risk-taking behaviour and dishonesty.

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Theodore Millon's 5 Types Of Narcissist

Theodore Millon was a psychologist/psychiatrist who proposed five different main types of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), or Malignant Narcissism/Self-Love.

Millon also developed the Millon Clinical Multiaxial Inventory (MCMI) which is currently widely used in diagnostic testing. Whereas James F Masterson had only proposed two main types of narcissism, exhibitionist (overt) and closet (covert), Millon defined the following four categories for his subtypes.


Unprincipled:

Used to describe narcissists with antisocial (i.e. sociopathic) features. Unprincipled narcissists are usually unscrupulous, deceptive and exploitative. Also includes charlatans and frauds.

Amorous:

Basically a narcissist with histrionic features (i.e. a drama queen). Amorous narcissists may appear charming and charismatic on the outside but they are also exhibitionists and have erotic tendencies.

Compensatory:

Compensatory narcissists tend to have passive-aggressive features and usually a negative attitude and outlook on life. They also have avoidant features presumably due to their negative way of thinking.

Elitist:

Elitist narcissists have a tendency to view themselves as better than anyone else, whether in status, position or intellect. Elitist narcissism fits in with Wilhelm Reich's description of a phallic narcissist.

The fifth subtype:

Unusually, Millon's fifth category included either all or none of the above. It could therefore be assumed that Millon had come up with six categories in total but didn't want to overly confuse the issue.

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Friday, 22 April 2016

Are You A Former Victim Of Narcissistic Abuse?

Calling all former victims of narcissistic/sociopathic abuse - your help is needed for a study which has been approved by the Carleton University Research Ethics Board. This research aims to identify the outcome of being in a romantic abusive relationship and how it relates to former victims developing resilience and growth after anxiety, depression, PTSD, etc.

Ideally, candidates should be over 18 years old and should have been involved in a heterosexual relationship involving narcissistic/sociopathic abuse for a significant period of time. This study is unique in that it mainly focuses on interpersonal and emotional consequences of suffering such abuse.

The findings of this study may very well have an affect on the way that victimization of narcissistic/sociopathic abuse is seen, viewed and dealt with by legal systems, not only potentially helping to discover avenues which may mitigate difficulties of victimization but also to improve the efficiency of relevant health support services for those who have been victimized.

The study should take approximately 1.5 hours to complete and involves self-report questionnaires and two behavioural tasks. No personally identifying information is required of any participants. Participating requires going to a secure data collection website, setting up a secure password-protected account where a pseudonym (false name) is to be used.

This study is unique to former victims of narcissistic/sociopathic abuse and may be the first study of it's kind, focusing mainly on victims rather than on narcissistic/sociopathic disordered persons with the intent of developing better support for former victims from support workers and Crown attorneys in a legal setting.

To register for a secure account (again, no personally identifying information is required) and to participate in this research, please visit the Carleton University Aftermath page here: http://www.cuaftermath.com/

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Saturday, 20 February 2016

Character Assassination & The Narcissist (Defamation/Slander)

The narcissist has a wide array of tools and techniques at their disposal for using narcissistic abuse to control and manipulate their victim(s). By far one of the most powerful forms of narcissistic abuse that a narcissist may utilize is character assassination.

Character assassination is not only a violation of basic human rights but it can be incredibly destructive and devastating for the victim and is considered to be no different whatsoever to actual assassination in a court of law in many countries. Character assassination relies on mainly using defamation (or slander) to destroy the victim's reputation. However, when a narcissist carries out character assassination they develop what could be considered to be a full-blown distortion campaign in order to target their victim.

Narcissists mix subtle lies with truths and spread rumors among people who know the victim (usually family and friends) and they do so by recruiting their unconscious army of pawns (or flying monkeys). Because the lies are so subtle and have been mixed with truths (making them half-truths), the narcissist's flying monkeys are more likely to believe them and each one of them goes and tells another person, who then tells another person who tells another person and lies and rumors soon begin to spread. This can also often result in Chinese Whispers.

Suddenly, the narcissist begins to seem like the victim expertly playing the part as things progress and people's opinions of the victim begin to change. The victim knows intuitively that something is wrong and that something is going on. It becomes obvious, although at first they may not realize that the narcissist is the true source of the distortion. Eventually, the lies and rumors may begin to surface and the victim may become aware of them but usually it's too late. People have already been primed to believe what they've been told. Another large part of the problem is that if some of the narcissist's pawns realize what's been going on, they may begin to feel guilty and will use similar tactics in order to cover up their own actions.

The more a victim attempts to expose the true actions of the narcissist, or their army of pawns, the stronger and more powerful their attempts at character assassination become and the more they destroy their victim's reputation. They leave the victim with no other choice but to allow the lies and rumors to circulate or they will only continue to make things worse.

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Tuesday, 26 January 2016

5 Signs Of Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Summary: Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is characterized by a strong sense of entitlement, complete self-centeredness and a need for constant admiration and adulation.

Narcissistic personalities lack empathy, have a super-human capacity for manipulation and often control and manipulate those around them often resorting to mental abuse and emotional blackmail tactics that are so well disguised they remain off the standard radar of human perception. 

Here are 5 signs of Narcissistic Personality Disorder: 

Lacks Genuine empathy 

Narcissists lack genuine feelings of empathy, though many of them do tend to act it out. However, this is usually behavior learned from other people’s responses and is not authentic. Empathy is the ability to relate to how something makes another person feel emotionally. Narcissistic personalities are unable to “put themselves in someone else’s shoes”, so to speak. 

Acts manipulative & exploitative 

NPD’s are masters of deception and invisibility and may resort to using ruthless tactics and stepping on other people, in order to get what they want.
If they don’t get what they want then you will mostly likely either feel their wrath or will be subject to the silent treatment. Alternatively, if in a relationship with a narcissist, sex may be withheld as punishment or provided as reward. 

Displays arrogance, superiority and self-importance 

Narcissistic personalities feel like they are a part of a group of highly privileged people who are superior to everyone else. They believe they are better than everybody else, they know more than anyone else and they always know best, no matter how skewed their worldview is. Due to their lack of empathy, they believe it’s other people’s faults for falliing prey to their abuse/lies/deception/exploitation and therefore they are not to blame for behaving in such a way. 

Always thinks about how things relate to them and no-one else 

Self-centeredness is different to selfishness. When a narcissistic personality talks about their life, they make regular use of the words “I”, “me” and “mine”, often using them when they should be using the terms “us”, “we” or “our”. Additionally, narcissists always think about how situations affect themselves but not how they affect others. Their focus is constantly on the self. 

Obsessed with upholding their false self 

NPD’s obsessively portray themselves to the outside world to be good, caring, genuine, honest people and want people to believe they are “as good as gold” and that “they wouldn’t hurt a fly”. In effect, this is a projection to cover the manipulation, exploition and deceit that truly happens behind the scenes. Additionally, many “elite” narcissists regularly make donations to charity.
It should be noted that these behaviors are pathological, they are deep-rooted in the subconscious and work to form an invisible, protective, virtually impenetrable exterior which acts as a defense mechanism.
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Wednesday, 6 January 2016

The Overwhelming Conscience Of A Narcissist

You could easily be forgiven for believing that just like a psychopath, a narcissist has no conscience either and on the face of things it usually does very much seem like this is the case. However, a narcissist (someone inflicted with Narcissistic Personality Disorder or any other form of malignant narcissism) does not suppress their guilt or shame in the same way that a sociopath/psychopath would.

Whilst it seems like a narcissist has control over their conscience, the truth is that they usually suffer with an overwhelming but well disguised conscience and they experience such high levels of shame and guilt that they find them unbearable and too emotionally painful to cope with. They do not openly display these emotions and just like they do with their thoughts and their deepest secrets, narcissists keep their feelings covert and under cover. However, unlike a psychopath (some of whom are capable of literally 'switching on' and 'switching off' their empathy at will), this is often a gradual process which happens in cycles over time. It can, however, also happen over the course of a night or two.

Due to the fact that narcissists ignore and suppress their true feelings of guilt and shame, this can often give the impression that they are completely devoid of emotion and they may often appear to be in a zombie-like trance. In actual fact, the opposite is the case. Their feelings are so strong, so powerful and so painful to deal with that they put them to the side and hope that those emotions fade as they force themselves to forget about the memories associated with the events that caused those emotions in the first place. They do so by simply choosing not to think about or remember those events. Such events could involve emotional blackmail, psychological abuse, one-night stands, secret affairs and/or something more extreme.

The easiest and best way for a narcissist to bypass their conscience is by ignoring their feelings (and associated memories) of guilt and shame in the day and by sleeping them off in the night and whenever else they can. If they have committed a particularly shameful act, they may keep people at length emotionally and may begin to sleep excessively until their conscience fades. For smaller shameful acts, they may sleep for one night then attempt to put their feelings of shame and guilt behind them and treat the next day like a fresh new start... until next time.

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